#metoo

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#Icallbullshit

It has sickened me to watch the news over some recent months to see all these women coming out of the woodwork like cockroaches with claims of sexual assault from prominent or celebrity men with big wallets.

This one claims he touched her breast in an airplane in 1970.   Another has a vague recollection of getting groped at an audition.   Still another says that she woke up with her panties missing after a night of drinking.

Hell, missing panties after a night of drinking? that would describe myself and at least 3-5% of my friends.   Saying that someone touched their breast has somehow made them feel violated.  Violated, is a very strong word.  That this event changed them.  Are you serious?  I’m sorry but in the words of Peggy Hubbard, “you’re all acting like a bitch baby pussies.”

The one thing many of these women all have in common? They are seeking monetary compensation, public humiliation, and slander.  That really bothers me.  Just because a man has money, they feel entitled to go after it?Nothing is really slander if it’s told through the lens of a teary interview on a TV show because it’s just is an allegation.   But after all is said and done, even if the man is vindicated and found not guilty, who remembers that?   Everyone remembers the teary painful recount of the tall tale told on said TV show.   No one can unring the bell, hence the humiliation for the man.

Everyone knows that if it was Mike the Mechanic from around the block, this gold digging venture wouldn’t be happening.   Mike who coaches soccer and stays for last call at the local watering hole isn’t going to have 7 women going after his house, his 401K, his Mercedes, and his Prudential mutual funds.  It would be women out trying to seek actual justice with jail time, not their 5 minutes of fame on Dateline and an undisclosed amount of currency.  

One allegation from which many of the #metoo claims stemmed, is that a roofie was placed in her drink and he slid his  “Jello-pudding pop” where it didn’t belong.  I think this is total bullshit too.  It  lead to throngs of others banding together in estrogen to shake him down for some loot in a civil trial.

As a trauma survivor of repeated child sexual assault,  I think it’s a load of bullshit.  The sheer numbers of these women coming forward and how they stacked up as fast as dominos falling,  doesn’t lend any credence to their allegations.  Rather, it is suggestive to me of women trying to get a piece of the proverbial payout pie to be potentially had; of any possible future settlement.

Do I believe it’s possible there could be real victims? Absolutely!!! However, the #metoo media frenzy left a bad taste in my mouth that felt more like a modern day Salem Witch Hunt than any sort of  legitimate investigation.   Where men in positions of power and/or wealth were targeted.

Perhaps instead of seeking a cash cow, these women can seek some evidenced based trauma work for their PTSD they allegedly suffer with.  Money won’t ever repair shattered self-esteems,  substance abuse riddled lives, and repairing the barriers to intimacy that the trauma has caused.  Real victims after all deserve real compassion and treatment.

No ones body should EVER be violated.

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Everyone should remain innocent until proven guilty.        

About Lexicon Lover

Read all about my journey (and musings) of recovery from both complex childhood trauma and incest, it’s manifestation in my adult life through maladaptive behaviors like BDSM, self-injury, eating disorder, substance abuse and toxic relationships; one with whom was a Narcissistic Sociopath. View all posts by Lexicon Lover

4 responses to “#metoo

  • Secret Keeper

    YES! Same bad taste over here. I find it all suspicious.

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  • Carrie Reimer

    Thank you for saying out loud what I have been feeling. I tackle so many topics and this is one I decided to let slip by. But I feel as you do.

    What I feared when this #metoo movement started; the real abuse would get diluted by all the claims of so-said abuse by all the attention seeking “victims”.

    Great post!!

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    • lexiconlover

      Carrie, I think we are in the minority on this issue. It truly has become highly politicized. It doesn’t seem coincidental to me that most people that stand beside the claims from these alleged victims are on the squarely on the left.

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