Porn

 

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The mere mention of the word in certain circles is enough to stir a heated debate among some.   Hey,  it’s right up there next to fornication.

It objectifies women.   It’s addictive.   And the latest is that it’s a gateway behavior.   The last one is really the best one, you know.  ‘Cause gosh so many of my friends who have watched porn over the years are now either working in the sex and porn industry don’t cha know.

It always starts out so innocent with watching online videos, then progresses to a threesome, followed by a pole-dancing job at a strip club, and ends up with a job at Studio 20 working livestream camming…………Not.

Seriously though, while I do believe that it can be a gateway behavior for some, I believe the comparison is the same as alcoholism.  Some people have a proclivity to develop an addiction to porn.   There is a direct correlation with the amount of porn usage and the susceptibility to porn addiction and that’s what the data doesn’t say.

There is also a double standard.   If a man is caught with porn, bloody hell, he best be ready to do hand-to-hand combat with his partner and should hire a damn good defense attorney because he’ll be sleeping anywhere but their bed.   If a woman is caught watching some porn, she’s a spicy catch.   It’s like winning the lotto.  Something is wrong with the way our society views gender roles and sexuality.

If a man likes and has a lot of sex he’s considered a stud.  If  a woman likes and had a lot of sex she’s considered a whore.  What?!!!!!

Sexuality has always been taboo here in the U.S. ever since the Puritans stepped off the boat in 1630.   The fact is there is nothing wrong with our bodies.  They are the greatest instrument we will ever own.

Whatever your opinion is on porn, one thing is for sure, this 97 billion dollar industry isn’t going away any time soon.  I for one am glad about this fact, because on occasion,  I enjoy watching some porn.

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6 responses to “Porn

  • Secret Keeper

    “The fact is there is nothing wrong with our bodies. They are the greatest instrument we will ever own.”
    Agree!

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  • Lexicon Lover

    😊

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  • justsaltwriter

    Our bodies natural functions are nothing to be ashamed about; agree.
    In my childhood there were (lots of) Hustlers and Penthouse on my playroom shelf next to the Disney books. I’m more of a word person so I would spend hours reading the explicit ‘stories’. What precious little was left of my childhood, by that point, disappeared completely. I couldn’t look at the prince in the Cinderella book (next to Penthouse on my shelf) as a benign and noble hero again, after that. I literally tingled over thoughts of the ‘happily ever after’– fantasizing about the prince’s package under those black cartoon pants. Everyone and everything I saw became sexualized; all a part of the grooming process.
    The belief that porn was normal and harmless fun lingered into adulthood. As did my penchant for sexualizing the things around me, just as I had been sexualized myself.
    It all started to make sense for me a few years ago when I stumbled upon the research of Dr. Judith Reisman. She was sued by playboy for libel; she won the lawsuit. She did a lot of research on the pedophile Alfred Kinsey (who inspired Hugh Hefner; Hefner read Kinsey when he was in college). Kinsey took fraudulent, illegitimate data, compiled through pedophile acts of abuse on children (for instance, Kinsey corresponded with a nazi officer who raped hundreds of imprisoned children and called it ‘research’), so he took his (bogus) research to congress to ‘prove’ that society had been viewing sexuality all wrong and that porn was good for us, and the laws were changed to make porn legal. (Kinsey eventually died with a painful condition in his testicles; which results from violent acts of repeated masturbation.)
    Sorry to go off, this is something that damaged me a lot so it pushes my buttons sometimes…if you don’t even want to post this comment, I understand!
    I do respect your opinion, though. Just don’t share it on this one! ❤️

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    • Lexicon Lover

      Firstly, as a survivor of childhood incest and other abuse horrors, I would like say I am so sorry for the way the use of pornography has had an indelible, damaging, and long- lasting negative impact on your life .

      My blog post’s statement was only about the veracity of the claim of it being a “gateway behavior.” As to whether porn is “good for us”, that is a personal choice. I cannot say it’s good for anyone save for myself. In moderation, I have found that it is good for me. Through it, I was able to reclaim my body which was taken from me in childhood. Prior to being exposed to pornography, I was largely dissociative and sexually repressed, unable to even masturbate well until my early 30’s.

      I’m so glad you shared your thoughts and feelings. I respect you as a person and a writer. We are all on this journey of recovery together. ❤️

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