The Few, the Proud, the Many?

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It’s 4:23 am, another sleepless night.  I just finished watching  “Sister Wives.” Now I don’t know a whole lot about anything, but day-um! Those ladies are leading one drama-filled life.  Watching that show made me feel a tiny bit better about my own train wreck of a life.  Ha!  Those four wives are crazier than hell to be married to that dude.   He reeks of “self-centered-to-the-extreme.”

I can barely contain jealous feelings which at times have come up for me over my man’s ex partner(s).  How would I ever survive living in some sort commune-compound with 3 other sister wives to share a husband?  Oh Hell no!!!

There was so much drama on this show it was painful to watch.   All these wives saying that they are best friends with each other and between them there are 18 children.  It was all so bizarre.

The pimp, I mean husband Kody, seems like a real a$$hat.    Three out of the four  of the wives Janelle, Robyn, and Christine are excluding the last wife Meri from their brand of fun and Reindeer games.   I felt so bad for Meri.   I found myself wanting to talk to the TV and yell,” Run Meri!”  “You’re the only one who realizes this is screwed up!”

Now I’m not sure why polygamy isn’t legal in other states? It must have to do with something in the Bible. Why is it that  certain parts of the LDS Church are cool with polygamy? Is it for the husband to maximize the potential for assets like acquisition of land? labor? If so, why would women be down to freely enter into such an arrangement? What benefits are they getting? Do those benefits outweigh the emotional BS they have to put up with like knowing their husband is in the next house making another woman squeal?  No one can tell me that these women can be okay with sharing their husband; sexually or otherwise.

I’m trying hard not to judge this lifestyle because I do not understand and/or get it. It just seems to me like legitimized infidelity to me, for the husband.

I mean, there are tons of husbands in  America who take on numerous mistresses behind their wives back because they have chosen to be unfaithful to their marital vows.  However, most of them are not flaunting it in their wives face to cause undue emotional harm. Not that it makes it okay.  It most certainly does NOT.  But ahem, I’m scratching my head about why these women want to sign up to be part of a harem? WTF?

What do you think about polygamy or open marriages?  Do you think the people who are in them are truly happy?

 

 

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2 responses to “The Few, the Proud, the Many?

  • justsaltwriter

    I think the multiple wife stuff is more of the same ‘women must submit’ brainwashing and worldly and pagan influences that still goes on in many religions to this day. A very shallow view of scripture might seem to support it. But take a good look at how multiple wives actually played out in real life for Abraham and Jacob and tell me it isn’t insane. Case in point Isaacs and Ishmaels descendants war to this day and draw the entire world into the conflict.
    Personally, I think for some women and men in such situations, they were duped, likely it was normalized in childhood and they remain largely innocent until they aren’t anymore somewhere around middle age when they could be waking up and changing. And for others, I suspect it’s a bit of a cop out and an excuse to check out of ones life and have someone else to blame. The a$$hat male in such cases is the perfect scapegoat for them to do their own forms of manipulating. Legalistic religions are appealing for that reason as you are told ‘exactly what to do’ and that way you don’t have the existential crisis of navigating the grey areas and taking ownership of your own decisions.
    I also think one reason businesses love to hire so many consulting firms is so that they have someone else to lay formal blame upon when stuff goes south. Similar concept.
    Making conscious decisions for ones’ self and standing by the ramifications of said decisions remains one of the hardest parts of being an adult human. Freedom can be down right scary and hard. Which is why so many willingly choose bondage and put up with being trapped, too scared to do life on their own.
    Just my two bits!

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    • Lexicon Lover

      As usual JSW, your wealth of Scriptural knowledge leaves you with an amazing advantage. I had no idea where it was within the Bible it played out. Thank you for teaching me something!!!

      I agree with you when you said, “Personally, I think for some women and men in such situations, they were duped, likely it was normalized in childhood and they remain largely innocent until they aren’t anymore somewhere around middle age when they could be waking up and changing..”

      As well I am in agreement with what you said about, “the a$$hate male I’m such cases is the perfect scapegoat for them to do their own forms of manipulating.”

      Freedom can be scary but in the end is the only choice for me!!!

      Love your comments. Two thumbs up! Way up girl!

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